Everyone has a favorite superhero as a child. I remember my childhood best friend often was wearing a cape as we played around the house together. Maybe he still does that as an adult in private; that would be glorious. I know I may take some heat for this, but my favorite superhero was Captain Planet. I watched that cartoon religiously every morning before the school bus picked me up. “Earth! Fire! Wind! Water! Heart!” I can feel some of your eyes roll as you read this post, but don’t worry I’m going to redeem myself in the next two paragraphs.
As an adult, I’ve stepped my superhero game up quite a bit – Wonder Woman! Maybe a bit cliché, but guys what else do you expect us gals to do? She’s beautiful, independent, strong, fearless, all while maintaining a heart of pure gold. Her superpowers include superhuman strength and she can even compel a man to confess everything with her lasso of truth. Can someone find one of those on Amazon.com for me please?
So while Wonder Woman’s great and all, those of us who are realists need to step outside of our imaginary world at times. Think to yourself, who is you real-life superhero?
I could most definitely and easily put each one of my immediate family members in this category, all for different reasons. I am so lucky to be able to say that; however when I really think about my superhero, the unwavering answer to that question is my grandmother.
My grandmother had 10 kids, one of them being my father. I often contemplate how she took care of so many kids when I can barely take care of myself. In addition, how the heck do you manage pregnancy for 10 years of your life? If my grandmom were in a comic book, one of her superpowers would most certainly be superhuman strength. This woman was tireless, or at least she appeared to be.
When most people think of a grandparent, they remember the softness they had or have for their grandchildren. Clearly from the picture above, my grandmom had a soft place in her heart for not only me but all of her grandchildren. More importantly she had the superpower of tough love. I often remember a drastic switch from her effortless laughter to firm and instructional guidance.
In today’s society, we are too conscious of trying to make sure our children don’t feel bad. We’ve forgotten that a little tough love is exactly what teaches them how to love and how to be kind to others. Discipline your children parents. I know you don’t want to hear that from me because I’m not a mother, but I can promise you it will make a world of difference to how they show themselves to the world when you are no longer there to guide them on every decision.
My grandmother passed away on January 6th, 2017. I’ve never quite dealt with the loss, but now I’m starting to realize that her energy will always be here with us. She left behind a legacy of imperfect, but extremely kind and good people. Her kindness and strength lives on through her 10 children, 21 grandchildren, 25 great grandchildren, and 3 great great grandchildren. I can only hope that our family continues to pass on the lessons of love and kindness she has taught us all.
I feel comfortable speaking for everyone, even the cousins I’ve never met when I say, “We love you grandmom.”